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Fear : Friend Or Foe? 02 Signs To Telltale

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Fear is an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.

Fears can paralyze us and they can keep us from progressing. However, our fears can also fuel our need for growth and help us overcome whatever obstacles come our way.

Sometimes your fears will keep you from reaching out and other times they will be causing so much distress that they will push you to reach out for help.

For instance, the fear of being homeless might give you that extra boost to create and build a prosperous business. The fear of loosing your job may push you to be the best employee at your workplace. The fear of getting in a car accident might keep you from driving recklessly and crashing on the highway.

However,  each single one of those fears can create aversive results. Instead of turning your confidence into a prosperous business, the fear of being homeless may keep you boxed in a lifestyle that does not serve you anymore. That aversion could then possibly make you depressive which could dangerously lead you to become homeless.  The fear of loosing your job may cause so much stress that it could drain your energy  to the point it would affect your work leading your boss to fire you. The fear of getting in a car accident may keep you from learning how to drive and getting your license.

So how can we tell when our fears are working for or against us?

Here 02 Signs To Telltale.


1. You have fear of failure

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The fear of failure, also called Atychiphobia or Kakorrhaphiophobia, is the persistent belief that no matter what you try, you will inevitably fail.  As with many phobias, atychiphobia often leads to a constricted lifestyle, and is particularly devastating for its effects on a person’s willingness to attempt certain activities.

Examples of fear of failure:

  • You fear failing an exam so you never sign up for that course you’ve been contemplating for a long time
  • You fear being alone so you never break up with  that toxic partner of yours
  • You worry about what other people think about you so you never try anything different
  • You worry about your ability to pursue the future you desire
  • You worry that people will lose interest in you
  • You worry about disappointing people whose opinion you value
  • Once you fail at something, you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed…

 

2. You have fear of success

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Fear of success is similar to fear of failure . They have many of the same symptoms, and both fears hold you back from achieving your dreams and goals.

However, fear of success is more complex than fear of failure because on some level, it’s more comfortable to stay in a familiar situation, even if it doesn’t feel great on the surface. But achieving success (however you define it) means you are entering uncharted territory. You are putting yourself out there to be scrutinized and criticized, and exposing yourself to new pressures and demands.

One can fear success without necessarily fearing failure because most people are very familiar with failure, and as a consequence have very little fear of it. The real issue is fear of success, and since we are not familiar with it, we are drawn away from it and back to what we know best, failure.

Examples of fear of success:

  • You runaway from healthy relationships and friendships
  • Once you finally finished your project you sabotage it thinking nobody will like it even if you totally love it and think it’s great
  • You know you have great potential to succeed but never do anything about it…

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On a conclusive note, fear is a friend when it boosts your faith and help you better yourself.

On the other hand, fear is a foe when it keeps you from becoming your greatest version.

 So what would you say is your greatest fear? Failure or Success?

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11 thoughts on “Fear : Friend Or Foe? 02 Signs To Telltale

      1. The perfectionist Ah! I know how it feels like. We, perfectionists, face many inner-struggles that I like to call the “perfectionist dilemma”: To finish now or to continue? To be or not to be?

        We all hate failures but without them success is impossible because failures are necessary to learn and adjust ourselves.

        Have you read 6 Ways You Can Change Your Life? (https://xperiencedimension.wordpress.com/2016/02/11/5-ways-you-can-change-your-life/)

        If you did, I suggest to take a second look at #3 where there’s an analogy about failure being comparable to a closed exit on the highway.

        Let me know what you think and see if it helps you 🙂

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