Social anxiety will ruin your life, if you can’t get over it. Find the triggers, then get over it.
I feel like sharing a bit more about myself in this post.
Alright, with that being said, deep subject ahead. Please bare with me.
I had have social anxiety ever since I started being self-conscious about the way that I look. It all started when I was 14, in high school. Some kids from Art class made fun of me because I had a mustache and a bit more hair on the chin than the other girls, because I hit puberty before everyone else did. Puberty hit me very hard on the nail… However, looking back at my situation, I wasn’t that hairy. But maybe I was a bit too much according to a white hairless teenage boy. I think if I would of waited and used proper skin care, my skin wouldn’t look the way it does today. I have discolored pigmentation caused by excessive used of hair removal products which created very dark scars. Being self-conscious about my scars gave me social anxiety. I started being scared to appear in public… but I have always tried to push myself out there and try as much as I could, even if I was often made fun of or starred at. Some days I couldn’t get up to go to work which led me to loose several jobs. I couldn’t connect with my coworkers because I could never stand the stares. I hated most of my jobs anyways, so it’s not really a loss.
Even people I have dated in the past made harmful comments about my scars or ridiculed me publicly to later deny their actions. That was the worst. I was never able to be myself in a relationship because I hated myself so bad for not being flawlessly pretty like the girls we see on the magazine covers.
Little need to say, society plays a major key in our self-confidence. The way we feel is often based on social approval. However, having grown so much the past couple years, I realize it’s all about the stories we tell ourselves.
For so long I have wondered why was I dealt the cards I was dealt with? It took me a long time to figure it out. But, looking back, social anxiety saved me from dead-end jobs, friendships and relationships. It helped me discover my self worth and reconnect with my passion that I had forgotten for so long.
However, as time goes, I’m realizing I can no longer based my decisions on social factors or it will ruin my life. I can no longer avoid going at the grocery store and spend a day or two without eating. That’s how bad self-conscious I felt some days, to the point of not going out to get food to feed myself. Out in the sun is when I feel most concerned that my ugly scars are revealing themselves in bright day light and giving away what I spend so much time trying to hide from the naked eye.
But social anxiety has done more good than bad when it comes to me, because It never paralyzed me to the point I would not try to change my situation, even if sometimes it got overwhelming. And I think that’s the exact reasons why It would get overwhelming. Because I have always forced myself to put myself out there. Forcing myself to get a normal life made me realize that as an introvert, I shouldn’t always force myself to be out there, because it drains my energy pretty quick. But the subject of being an introvert is for another post.
If you have social anxiety and take medication, you need to realize your feelings are not yours. I always knew that my triggers for my social anxiety could be overcome, reason why I never believed in taking medication. It’s not real. It’s in your head. Society has ingrained us with fear and self-doubt. If you can find the triggers to why you are scared to go out in public, you are half-way through getting over your social anxiety. You do not need pills. Little you know, those pills could be placebos. If those pills were really working, the pharmaceutic industry wouldn’t make any money. It’s a national scam that works because of the programmed belief system. Many places in regions like Peru, India or Africa do not believe in mental illnesses for that matter. They just let people live. They know that society is the illness. But in the western world we believe it is us. They’ve done a great job at blaming and shaming us. It is not you nor me. The society brainwashes us.
The reason why you think your pills work is because you give those pills healing powers when in fact, that healing power comes from within yourself. In other words, It is because you believe that pills can cure and help you that it works. If you didn’t believe it could, you would find yourself asking your doctor to switch brand. And of course they will tell you that you need them. Or maybe it has already happened?
That’s how they do it. How would they make money if they told you it was all in your head and that you can self-heal? You pay their bills and their hundred dollars toilet paper. Obviously, they would loose a lot by telling you the cure…
Bottom line, your mind can self-heal.
Love is the cure.
Self-love is what will guide and save you from self-destruction.
Social anxiety affects your decisions in such a way that you become bias and fearful.Living a life in fear will destroy your soul.
I’ve been living in fear and self-doubt for nearly 10 years. But ever since I started meditating and reconnect with my higher-self few years ago, things have gotten so much better. I got over the fear of getting ridiculed and went to see a dermatologist who made me feel very good about myself.
Needless to say, it took me a lot of courage.
It would of never happened if I wouldn’t have kicked myself in the butt. But being a go-getter is part of my personality and it has always been. I don’t know about you. I have always found ways around my social anxiety so that I could advance in life, taking baby steps. And it’s okay that some days you wont like getting out. Everybody has days where they want to stay in and don’t feel like doing anything. However, you must not let that paralyze you and keep you from becoming your greater self.
If you have social anxiety, use it at your advantage to discover yourself. Slowly identify the triggers to your fear. It may be physical like me or strictly mental. Identifying the roots will allow you to grow a working solution for yourself. Do it for you. Do it because you deserve and are worthy of a better life. You are worthy of wealth and health. You are worthy of love and compassion.
Social anxiety will ruin your life if you can’t get over it. But I believe you can fix it. The power is in you.
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