I wish this post could be seen by the entire world but especially by my ex. I wish we could change our perception of love and pain so that we wouldn’t feel the need to suffer so much… Pain is unhealthy and does not serve as proof of love. Pain destroys. Love builds. Pain is insane. Love is sane. Pain depresses. Love uplifts. Pain works under precise conditions. Love works without the need for conditions. Pain opens wounds. Love mends scars. Pain is controlling and manipulative. Love is freeing. Pain is jealous. Love is content. Pain is lack. Love is abundance. Pain is limited. Love is unlimited. Pain tells lies. Love shows the truth. Pain is misery and poverty. Love is wealth. Pain makes people change. Love makes people progress. Pain is unfair. Love is fair. Pain cheats. Love plays by the rules. You want to show someone you truly love them, try not to hurt them. This may be your family, your lover or your friend.
With that being said, It’s safe to say some people probably want you to feel miserable but not necessarily because they hate you. But because they want you to need them; depend on them. That’s how they get their love; they try break you so they can pick up the pieces. It’s unhealthy but they don’t know how to be otherwise. Some people do associate love with pain and drama. They think if they hurt it means they love you so logically if you hurt, it’s a proof of your love.
But the question is: how far will the hurt goes? Will it ever end? See that’s the thing with that mentality; it does not have boundaries. Does somebody need to die for it to stop? Metaphorically, from their perspective, probably. With that kind of logic, if someone wins, that means someone has to loose. But if pain is love, does it mean love is pain? Ain’t love supposed to heal pain? So if love is pain, what heals pain? More pain? Hm. I’m kinda skeptical how deep the rabbit hole truly goes. At one point even the rabbit has to come out. Therefore it does not make any sense to say pain is love because love heals pain. Love and pain are two separate entities, it’s now very clear to me.
Pain is unhealthy but love is healthy. Pain is real but suffering is optional. But see, we’re all a bit messed up and have come to associate love with pain. I’m jealous so I love you. You are suffering because of me, that means you love me. You are miserable without me, that means you need me and I feel needed by you so that means I love you. I don’t know about you, but this sounds a bit like conditional love more than pure healthy unconditional love; I love you as long as you need me. If you progress outside of the neediness, I will probably have to look for someone else to need me to feel loved again…
To my ex and to the whole world : Love is not meant to be painful, people. Open your eyes. Open your heart. Stop hurting one another. Let’s reduce the suicidal, crime and sickness rate. Love yourself. Love your neighbor. Love the people. Love me. Free the people. Free me.
I wish infinite love, health, healing, wealth, success, happiness, awareness, peace and wisdom upon your soul