Forgiving someone does not mean we have to forget what they did. Actually, remembering what they did is the best way to remember the lessons they’ve taught you through their unsettling/hurtful behavior. You don’t want to repeat the same mistakes over and over, do you? Everyone you encounter brings something to your table. We don’t meet people by accident… Some say we have a soul agreement with everyone we cross path with. Well, to be honest with you, I don’t know about that. But what I do know is holding grudges against people who hurt you does not serve you. Why would you jeopardize your own health for someone who is probably going about their normal life like nothing was? Ignoring you?
You forgive not necessarily because they deserve forgiveness but because you deserve peace. I know people who haven’t spoken to family members in decades because of grudges. Maybe you know people like that as well… With that being said, there will never be a perfect time for forgiveness. It will always feel weird… But the longer we wait, the longer it builds up in us. I know for a fact sometimes we can’t forgive others because we can’t forgive ourselves. Here’s the thing… Someone’s behavior tells a whole lot more about who they are than it tells about you. And often time it has nothing to do with anyone but themselves. That is what I’ve learned and it allows me to distance myself from hurtful behaviors, because I know it has everything to do with them, not me.
There are several ways we can forgive. One of the healthiest way is not to remain silent. Someone abused you? Someone took advantage of you? Someone lied to you? Someone made you feel like crap? Someone stole your hard earned money? Someone cheated on you? If somebody hurts you, you are absolutely allowed to give them a taste of their own medicine. But by that, I don’t mean to avenge yourself, I mean to speak out loud and express yourself. Peace does not always equal silence… But, obviously, when we hurt others, we want them to be quiet… Nobody wants to be the bad apple… even psychopaths somehow find ways to justify and excuse their actions.
People that hurt us want us to be quiet for the same reason we want others to be… Of course they don’t want to hear what you have to say; it implies they have to change and not everyone is evolving at the same rate. Let alone evolving. But for your own health and your own sake, don’t suffer in silence. It’s okay to give people a reality check. Be the one who stand up to them. Don’t be another victim… In most cases nobody is brave enough to face the people who mistreat them, but when someone does, trust me, they remember it. That’s how you gain back your power. Speak, break the silence, release, then move on. Let go and let the Universe take care of the rest. However, always keep in mind that everybody hurts… That means you, it also means me.
I wish infinite love, health, healing, wealth, success, happiness, awareness, peace and wisdom upon your soul.