Why Rejection Is Your Best Ally

From being born in the slums in some third world country , to being adopted by a woman from whom I yearned love I never really got, for a very long time it never occurred to me I was allowed to be happy. I thought I was doomed to die alone and unrealized. I was raised in a chaotic house I never called home…
I’ve felt misunderstood all my life. On top of that, I’ve never been in a relationship with someone who wanted me for me. All my relationships ended up the same way… I’ve never been surrounded by people who really gave me time to open up. I thought I was not allowed to be myself because every time I tried, I got brutally declined. And nope. You’re far from being an exception P (if you read this). Although you did help me a lot, from my perspective and experiences, love and loyalty seem to be conditional. I always felt forced to please someone in order to survive. When I stopped, everybody disappeared. I’ve got rejected and hurt way more than I ever asked for. Well, at least on a conscious level…


It goes without saying, growing up I developed serious trust, anxiety and attachment issues. I never had nobody I could really turn to… My brother, my father and especially my mother will never admit that. Right. What about my adoptive father anyway? At least he was sincere when he told us to our face he never wanted children. Hm. My brother still can not digest… I’m okay with it. If one thing he did right is always tell us the truth. And I admire honesty…


I used to think the world was against me… that I would not live to see the next year. I spent so many Holidays alone… so many unnoticed birthdays… I spent so many years trying to figure out what was wrong with me. Today I realize there was something wrong with everyone I crossed path with… Turns out, my attachment and trust issues played their cards well. My old inabilities to open up revealed people true intentions. They all wanted something I could not offer, therefore they all rejected me like a piece of garbage.


Fast forward today, I am tremendously grateful and thankful for all those people. Thank you. I’m running a successful IT company, which has been my dream for ever since I can remember. Every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually getting redirected to something better. Rejection is a gift people. It is the Universe way to tell us “hey you, not there, over here.” Through all my struggles, the Universe has opened my Eye. I believe in a love greater than any human being can offer. Sometimes I just can’t believe that, it is that fire, that love, that loving energy inside of me which I never saw or even believed I had, the desire to experience something better, that kept me standing. I believe in love. I believe in vibrations. I believe in energy. I believe in hopes and dreams. They kept me alive.


The Universe has mysterious ways to love, support and guide us… However, trust me when I say rejection is a blessing in disguise. I will be forever grateful and thankful for it. If someone shows you the door, be grateful for they are showing you YOUR DOOR. Same way if something is not working the way you think it should, it’s the Universe way to say “maybe later”,  “not this deal”, “look here”, “not with this person”, “not there”, “not now”, “right here”, “right now”, etc… Embrace and accept rejection. It will show you the way.
Everyone who walks out of your life is doing you a favor, because they are leaving you room for you to grow and expand . If they are meant to be, somehow, someway they will come back. On the other end if they are not, as hard as it is to admit, if someone is not good enough for you, it also means you are not good enough for them. Which is a very fair assessment when you think about it. Optimistically, it means, you both deserve something better.

Besides… It is confirmed, for the first time since 1992, in August of this year, I’m going to visit the orphanage where I grew up. I’ll be meeting with the lady that brought me here. Ouff. Emotional trip ahead. I will probably be documenting my journey there. Lots of footage! So stay tune. I’ll be staying a week. For me, it’s kind like another dream come true… Everything is possible. Just believe.

I wish infinite love, health, healing, wealth, success, happiness, awareness, peace and wisdom upon your soul.



























17 thoughts on “Why Rejection Is Your Best Ally

    1. Thank you for your time Eric. Yup. Very hard to swallow… Rejection is one of those things we have difficulty to deal with because there’s a lot of misconception behind it. I used to think that my life was a big-o negative “NO” like I was doing everything wrong until I realized there is no such thing as a negative no. It’s always a positive yes to something else. But we often miss that one because we’re too busy focusing on the no. That’s why I embrace rejection so much now. I rather get rejected as fast as possible so that I can adjust and rewire as early as possible. It still hurts don’t get me wrong. But things got easier when I understood rejection is a blessing in disguise. It’s a nudge in the right direction.

      Hope all is well with you Eric.

      Infinite love peace and wisdom your way!


      1. It’s key to be rejected swiftly. There’s less sting to it. Like ripping off a band aide. It’s the long ones, after you’ve invested time, money, energy, emotions, you’re whole self that decimate a person. I’m working on one now that happened 4 years ago….hm..crazy stuff.

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      2. Hm. 4 years huh? It’s the flashbacks, right? No matter what and no matter how long, I believe you can heal, Eric. No doubt about it. Don’t be so hard on yourself… There’s always something greater on the way. I mean it 😉

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    1. Thank you for your time Jennie. Yes, it’s a great reminder we often forget when we face rejection. We tend to jump to negative conclusions right away. We think something is wrong with us when it’s far from it. Rejection hurts, but I believe it’s the “Universe” ways of protecting us from something that would be far more aggravating.

      Good stuff. Hope all is good with you and you’re having a wonderful week.

      Infinite love peace and wisdom your way!

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      1. There is so much negativity out there already, you know what I mean Jennie. I think we don’t need more of it. It makes people sick, stressed and fearful. I wouldn’t be of service to anyone and also to myself to whine and ruminate. It’s bad blood.

        Positivity truly works. That’s why I called the blog Alternate Dimension. It’s a reminder to leave all my problems behind when I come here. It’s a reality check for me. Sometimes I sit at the desk and it’s hard to type because the subjects I write about touch sensitive cords inside of me. I’ve hit the Publish button with a face full of tears many times. That’s how I knew it was necessary to let go.

        I’m grateful for everyone who takes a little time on their day to courageously step here. Sometimes the articles may sound harsh but they always come from a loving place like you said.

        I also enjoy your blog a lot! Youthful! It’s like I’m in elementary again 😉

        Have a wonderful day!

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    1. Thank you for your time thinknact. Well, if God is the word you use, whatever works for you😊

      I’m more of a free spirit who loves to keep her options opened. I like to use more freeing terms that do not necessarily imply Religion… But there is nothing wrong with Religion as well. I think we all entitled to our beliefs and opinions. Whatever keeps us going. And yes I agree, life can be magical once we are opened to give and receive. I think the strength comes from the willingness of getting better. I believe it’s in all of us to find and harvest.

      Infinite love peace and wisdom your way!

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      1. Why listening the word God, the very first thing which comes in our mind is God?? God is the supreme power. The infinite source of positive energy. I have read in many of your posts about energy. So, God is the source of positive energy. I will soon write a post about it. Hope you will read. We need to change our perception about it. 😊

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      2. I mean some people are more comfortable with words like Source, Source Energy, Universe etc… It’s less prone to confrontation and it seems to bring everyone on the same common ground and understanding of what is… You know what I mean? At the end of the day those are just words that probably refer to the same thing…

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