Energy vampires are usually deeply emotionally suffering individuals. Keeping that definition in mind, I would be an hypocrite if I didn’t admit I have probably been one at some point in my life since I have been suffering quite a lot for a very long time. In fact, we probably all have been one and we still sometimes transform into one when we are vibrating in a very low negative frequency.
Basically, we become energy vampires when we are unhappy. From a suffering individual point of view, if others do not suffer with what they are suffering with, it means they don’t understand them nor love them. So they often look for ways to bring suffering upon their environment and everyone in contact with them because they don’t want to feel lonely in their suffering. If they can’t find anyone to suck energy from, they will often gravitate around other negative people. Together they will validate their suffering. Misery likes company.
From my point of view, I believe there are two general types of energy vampires, the unconscious and the conscious one.
The unconscious vampire, I think, is the one we often transform into unconsciously when things and circumstances do not go our way or when we are deeply hurt. In this case, we are suffering but we have no idea we are also causing suffering to others by consistently being negative, sad, angry or resentful because we are blinded by our own unhappiness. What makes it even harder on us and also on others is that we don’t know how to shift paradigm. Suffering, fear and bitterness have become our new normal.
On the other end, conscious energy vampires are suffering individuals who consciously make others suffer. They have often resigned to live in misery and befriend the shadows. All they see is misery.
Here just a few examples of everyday situations that can turn any human into a vampire :
Breakups & divorces : If we feel we’ve been treated unfairly, we are most likely to turn sour and walk with a chip on our shoulders.
Depressing jobs : If the job you do depresses the heck out of you, you are probably complaining a lot about it.
Unhappy life circumstances : When we are unsatisfied with where our life is in the present moment, it’s hard to have a great outlook on the future.
Trauma : I believe we’ve all face some form of level of trauma in our lifetime, whether it happened days, weeks, months or years ago. The worst thing about trauma is that it often becomes part of you without leaving any clues that it is there.
Grief : If you lost someone or something dear to you, this can potentially turn you into a vampire. Grief can also easily fits in the trauma category.
There are many more examples I could give but the list would be way too long. And I believe you understand it enough to come up with your own examples.
With that being said, here’s what to do if you think you are in the presence of an energy vampire (it could be anyone from a family member, your spouse, a friend… coworker, even one of your kids) :
1. The first thing you want to do is emotionally distancing yourself from that individual and become understanding. They are probably suffering, anxious or scared. Whatever it is they are internally dealing with, they are unhappy and they don’t know what to do. Sucking your energy is their way of expressing and feeding their negative state of mind.
2. If you feel yourself unable to deal with that individual state of mind because you already have a lot on your plate, it’s best to cut off ties. In fact, some energy vampires need to spend time alone to reflect and work on themselves. It’s something nobody can do for them, if they are not ready to hear. However, if you can’t get away that easy because that person happens to be your kid or someone who’s living under the same roof (eg. a roommate or maybe one of your relatives), two things you can do :
– Minimize your interactions for a while, minimize the time you spend with them. Eventually they might realize your behavior and they just might ask you why you seem to runaway from them. That’s a sign they are opened to conversation.
– Try to change subject when they start being negative. Uplift them by pointing out something good they recently did. Compliment them on something that matters to them. For example, if they change their hair color a lot or spend a lot of time on their appearance, tell them how you love their new color or how that new haircut looks good on them. Strike a conversation about their style… etc.
Now, if you feel like you are an energy vampire, for any kind of reason, you might want to consider changing your life around. Everybody deserves love, abundance, wealth, health, peace and happiness. Nobody was born to suffer. Misery and suffering is not our natural state. Abundance is. Whatever you need to be doing to shake your negative state of mind off (quit your job, start a business, breakup, travel, research your ancestry, write a book, get a new haircut, loose weight… etc.) just do it. Being envious of other people success and bringing suffering around you will only cause more pain and suffering. You owe yourself happiness and freedom.
I wish infinite love, health, healing, wealth, success, happiness, awareness, peace and wisdom upon your soul