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Eradicating Self-Sabotage – The Jonah Complex

Yesterday I was harsh on you. Hopefully it bared fruit.

Today I want to talk about the importance of eradicating self-sabotage. I used to have that bad habit. And I’m still fighting with it from time to time, especially when things are going extremely good. Why? Because I’m so used to struggle that when everything is right, parts of me want to sabotage it. It’s like I expect things to turn bad at any given moment and look for something that will make everything tumble down. Then since our mind is programmed to match our inner-reality with our outer-reality, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy, most of the time subconsciously. And I know I’m not the only one inflicted with that.

So why do we do it? Why do we self-sabotage when things are going great? In psychology they call it fear of success or the Jonah complex. It is the fear of greatness. It’s one reason why a lot of people settle for mediocre lives and mediocre relationships. They believe they could not cope with success so they rather remain miserable because it is a state more familiar to them. It’s not necessarily comfortable, but that’s what they know. Mediocrity has become a comfort zone somehow.

Here few causes taken out of Maslow theory:

  • They fear the responsibility that often attends recognizing one’s own greatness, talents, potentials

  • They fear that an extraordinary life would be too much out of the ordinary, and hence not acceptable to others

  • They fear of seeming arrogant, self-centered, etc.

  • They have difficulty envisioning oneself as a prominent or authoritative figure

Many people fear that if they succeed, their family or friends wont love them anymore. So they often keep themselves from shinning too bright to be loved and validated.

The problem with that mentality is that they do not know that becoming successful could make them become an inspiration to their very family and friends. “John or Jane did it” sort of thing.

They don’t see that they could turn a whole generation of failures around and become the game changer. They don’t understand that their success  could be the cornerstone of getting the whole family’s name back and putting everyone back on the map.

So yes. Success is mandatory. If you are blessed with being different from everyone around you, it is your duty to succeed and embrace success like it’s your first name.

People don’t become arrogant and mean because of success. They become arrogant and selfish when they forget where they come from.

I guess this post is about encouraging you to succeed beyond measures. Be the game changer, the one that people will see as the one who did it. The one who got everyone out of the gutter and showed them it could be done.

I encourage you to become your own person. Stop clinging on  your family and friends for approval. I mean why would you want to be approved by unsuccessful people? Of course they will never understand. You’re the one who’s supposed to make them see that it’s possible. Don’t talk about it. SHOW.

That’s just how it is.

You, my friend, deserve all the success in the world.

If you worked your ass off for it, made hard sacrifices, it’s all yours.

If you struggled almost all your life, it’s all yours.

Stop sabotaging.

It’s okay to be healthy, wealthy, beautiful and successful.

Believe it or not, it’s alright to have it all.

If they hate it, they can go and suck your *.

Surround yourself with healthy, wealthy and successful people. They wont make you feel bad about being a success.

It’s important to remain humble and not forget your family, but it’s also good to have people that will celebrate your success with you.

 

Infinite love, health, healing, wealth, success, happiness, awareness, peace and wisdom your way


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