Recently, I made couple posts with me stipulating I don’t believe in mental illness.
Although, I hold true to that (read The Myth of Mental Illness by Thomas Szasz to know where I’m coming from), I need you to know it’s far from being an attack to you if you happen to be diagnosed with one. My allegations are also coming from my studies in Psychology in University.
Mental illness is just a label, not the essence of a person, just like gender, age or sexuality.
Now hear me out. Emotional distress is real. Pain and suffering is real. Everything you feel is real. The full range of emotions that we can all possibility feel is real. Our emotions are real.
Everything that we feel is real. Your reality is real. The despair you may feel sometimes is real. I acknowledge all your feelings. Being sad, confused, extremely lost, detached, disconnected, lonely, out of focus, depressed, angry, etc… All of it is real. It feels real. The body goes through shock and trauma when the mind and the heart shut down. All of it is real and emotional distress is no joke.
But, does it mean it is mental illness? To have emotions of despair, to feel lost and confused, to be exhausted, angry, frustrated and depressed should not be stigmatized as mental illness. That’s my point.
Emotions are not a disease and should not be treated as such. That’s my other point. To feel is to be human. It is not an illness. That’s where medicine and our societies are failing.
Most of us grew up in families that totally ignored our feelings. We were told that feeling was bad and that being sensitive was somehow a weakness. A lot of us grew up not being allowed to express our emotions. I’m part of those children. And that’s my third point.
We live in societies that instead of welcoming emotions as humanly normal, we treat feelings and emotions as shameful diseases, weaknesses.
Do you see what I mean now? Do you better understand me? It’s important for me.
I don’t always have the right words to explain the depth of my philosophical reflections. But it’s never an attack to you. It’s always almost an attack to how the system is set up to drive us crazy in a way.
They treat emotional distress like they treat the flu. And if it did really work, more people would survive from their treatment. The truth is many people perish either by overdose or suicide.
And that’s the next point I’m trying to make. We think the response to our ailment is outside of ourselves. We give our power away by accepting labels they give us.
A pill wont make the trauma caused by 18 years of sexual abuse away.
A pill wont heal post traumatic stress caused by 10 years of verbal and physical abuse.
A pill wont erase the memory of seeing your father or mother die when you were just a child.
A pill wont bring your biological parents back… etc.
A pill numbs you down and in a lot of cases, a lot of people feel even worst.
Truth is, we need to face reality. The only way to truly heal, is by acknowledging how we feel and treat our emotions as something that is normal and beautiful. We need to come down to terms that yes it happened. Now why it happened is not the question. The question is what are you going to do?
The answer is not found in a pill or outside of yourself. The answer is found within yourself. But if you’re scared to look there, if you are disgusted by your own reflection in the mirror, you will always look for answers outside of yourself.
If you ask me do I know about trauma? You’ve read me. You’ve read my blog. I’ve shared bits of my life. If there is one person here that knows about post traumatic stress is me. But it’s also because I had the courage to sit with myself alone that I can tell you that if you run away from yourself, from doing the work, you will never be at peace. We cant buy a bottle of peace. That’s not how it works.
Peace, love, acceptance, forgiveness is not found in a pill. It is found inside of you. The chill pill is you.
But as Dr Wayne Dyer used to say, if you don’t believe you can heal, if you don’t believe in yourself, if you don’t believe that you’re the answer to all of your sorrows, it’s never going to work and you will always wait for someone or something to save you.
I don’t care how many books you read, how many seminars you attend, how many relationships you try, how many pills you take… The only two ingredients you really truly need are self-love and belief.
If I could sell you a belief/self-love pill, believe me I would. If I could make it in the first place, I would be the richest wealthiest person in the whole Universe. Because we can create miracles with belief and love alone.
I strongly believe that labels do not define people. However, if labeling yourself helps you overcome whatever you need to overcome, well, I guess there is nothing wrong with that. But I do think that you are more than whatever label they stigmatize you with.
The brain is not unchangeable, you know. We are never stuck with an old brain. It’s plastic. It can change.
There are so many things I could say about the nervous system alone and how thoughts travel through synapses and how they shape the brain, but I don’t want to bore you to death.
Just know that yes, it’s true, our belief system either has the power to make or break us and our brain truly becomes what we believe.
Choose your thoughts wisely.
Change your thoughts, change your brain, change your life.
Infinite love, health, healing, wealth, success, happiness, awareness, peace and wisdom your way