Ascribing intent is when we believe everyone’s bad behavior is in response to us, that they hate and reject us. It’s also the belief that everyting we do is wrong. It’s one of those things that can ruin our life if we are not careful.
It used to be one of my major problems. I used to think everything was my fault.
The truth is, if someone does not call or text you back, or reply to your email, it is unlikely because of you.
They may not know what to reply, they may be busy away from their phone or their phone may be either on silence or turned off (I do it all the time).
If someone treats you like crap and break your heart, without apparent reasons, it tells much more about who they are and what they are going through internally than it tells about you.
If your business sales are low, and nobody uses your services or buys your products or books, all it means is that you need a new strategy. It does not mean that you suck at business.
Everything is not because of you. And unless you’re a very shitty person, which I doubt that you are, you are not a bad person.
Good people often find themselves in bad environments, because they don’t truly know who they are. They are unaligned with their true path.
Eistein once said “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.“